“Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves in a neutral, fairly hopeful position, compared to what their situation could be. A single person who would like to find a great relationship is one step away from it, with their to-do list reading, ‘1) Find a great relationship.’ People in unhappy relationships, on the other hand, are three leaps away, with a to-do list of ‘1) Go through a soul-crushing break-up. 2) Emotionally recover. 3) Find a great relationship.’ Not as bad when you look at it that way, right?
All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. It’s your life partner.
Thinking about how overwhelmingly important it is to pick the right life partner is like thinking about how huge the universe really is or how terrifying death really is—it’s too intense to internalize the reality of it, so we just don’t think about it that hard and remain in slight denial about the magnitude of the situation.
But unlike death and the universe’s size, picking a life partner is fully in your control, so it’s critical to make yourself entirely clear on how big a deal the decision really is and to thoroughly analyze the most important factors in making it.”
I really, really enjoyed this breakdown of how to choose a partner (and just as important – how NOT to). The whys, the analysis, the personality types, the stick figure drawings… it’s very accessible without being overwhelming. Even as a married person, I find articles like this helpful, because it’s important to reassess yourself every now and again. For you singletons, I hope this leaves you hopeful, because quite frankly, you’re still happier than that miserable married couple.
[link via Jezebel]